A lady took to her Facebook page to seek for an advice on what to do about her mum and her shared story.
Read what she wrote below:
‘’My parents divorced before I became of age. My dad (now late) has had to go through 2 marriages before I became an adult.
It was not until I gained admission into the University that I started relating with my mum… only because we live in the same town. And somehow-her current husband sought me out.
They have two more daughters together. And I noticed that the elder one began to see me as a rival… almost to the point of disrespecting me. We were quarrelling a lot and my mum wasn’t cautioning the girl as she should. It made me very bitter. Coupled with my hurts about her leaving me for my dad and his ‘strange’ wives to raise.
Eventually, I got married. I only brought my husband to meet my mum and her family once. We bought fruit juice for them.
My mum didn’t attend my wedding. She probably feared my dad’s people would not welcome her.
I was in my final year when I had my first child and she frequented my ‘off campus’ apartment to baby sit for me while I went for my classes.
Shortly after I graduated from school. I left to join my husband at his base. My mum started complaining to our mutual friends that my husband and I didn’t treat her as well as mothers who come for ‘Omugo’ should.
I didn’t like the side talks.
Out of anger, I asked the person that relayed her ‘side talks’ to me, to tell her that I won’t let such interference make me have a failed marriage like her (my mum).
And that’s also the last time I set eyes on them in over 10 years.
Joining my husband at his base…
I found out that things are not rosy at all. He shoulders so many family responsibilities and his business wasn’t doing so well.
So, I began from day one to hustle. And today, I have a thriving business.
I have since had two more babies but the problem is that I have tried so hard to re- establish a relationship with my mother and her daughters but she keeps rebuffing my efforts.
She neither takes my calls nor replies my messages.
The days that she chooses to pick, we talk like strangers. No motherly disposition from her towards me.
Recently, I extended an invitation (through my mum) to her daughters to come spend their holiday with me. My mother told me that they said they are busy.
Parliament, all I am trying to do is to nurture a ‘mother-daughter’ relationship with my mother but her attitude is not welcoming at all.
My mother doesn’t even know my husband. They have only met once-the day that I took him to go see them. And it was a brief meeting, which took place around 8 pm… for less than 30 minutes.
My children don’t know her, either. She has only set her eyes on the first one- during the first weeks of his birth.
Please advise me on how to handle this.
Should I go my way and close this chapter for good? After all, people that are motherless still live fulfilled lives.
I am in my mid-30s. All parties are from Imo state.’’
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