‘I am a single mother. Have been in a relationship with my guy for about 6years. And we are just planning to tie the nuptials.
Although we started as friends-before we became lovers. He has always been ready to marry me but I have been the one delaying things.
I was coming from a difficult phase( a failed marriage and economic struggles) in my life and needed some time to find myself, first.
All through, he has always been there for me…emotionally, especially. And the little he has…he was happy to share with me (and my children) as well. My children adore him very much. Except one (my eldest daughter)…who is neither close nor hostile to him. Just aloof- towards him.
He used to assist in the ‘field’ aspect of my business. And he also makes money for his efforts. Although, my other workers believe we are relatives. I need to keep things under control-until I am sure of where we are headed.
Admin, I am currently having misgivings about the relationship due to an attitude that he displayed, recently.
I was asleep when he used my finger print to unlock my phone. And read my chats with some ‘contacts’.
I was mad at him when he confronted me about it in the morning. He claimed that he was protecting our love. I think he is suspecting me of cheating on him.
And that’s not the first time that he has done such.
There was a time, he gained access to my phone (while I was asleep) and he began to chat up one of my male clients (who is quite close to me…as a brother). In that exchange…he (pretending to be me) was telling the guy that I was missing him. And asking if he could come visit.
The next morning -that my client called to find out why I was asking him to visit all of a sudden. Especially, since we had spoken the day before. I apologised to him.
I care deeply for my guy. We have come a long way and he has always been there for me. But I do not know how to handle his insecurity. I am a decent woman to a fault. But the nature of my business also entails that I come across both women (and mostly) men. Will I drive all my clients away because of him?
Secondly, when our issues (quarrels here and there) became too much. I asked for us to give ourselves a break for some time. He didn’t take the move well. Claimed that I have used him for years and now want to dump him.
On few occasions, he also claimed that if he can’t have me…that no other man will. I also realised that when we have issues, he spirals out of control-smoking excessively. He claims that the distance between us does that to him.
Please look into the issue and advise me. I am in my late 30s. I have a business that I run. We are within the same age bracket. He is a contractor. Although, I am more financially buoyant. All parties are from Anambra state.’’
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